Waiting is not easy, but it is worth it

Last weekend we got to witness a beautiful wedding, it was such an honor to be part of this union mainly because we’ve known the couple for many years and we have seen them grow and embrace the process of waiting.

Jean Pierre married his sweetheart Denisse after 9 years since they first fixed their eyes on each other, the waiting process was inevitable as they were only 12 and 14 years old at the time. The Wait was the hardest yet the most rewarding process they have gone through in their relationship but it was time and their willingness to wait, that proved it was true love.

As youth pastors together with my husband we have been able to witness many beautiful love stories unfold, but we have also witness terrible heartbreaks that could have been easily been avoided.

In this blog I want to share with you 4 important things to consider so you can make it to the altar and build a family that honors God.

Marriage was never a human idea, it was God’s idea to bring a suitable helper to Adam.

Genesis 2:18 NIV
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

We never read about Adam complaining to God about not having anyone to share his life with, it was God that saw Adam and knew it was time to bring that special someone into his life, and that’s when Eve came into the picture.

Unfortunately we live in times where teens decide for themselves it is not good for me to be alone, therefore I will choose a suitable someone just to keep me company, and with that mentality they end up sharing life with many girlfriends or boyfriends and that’s the reason why society has many problems such as: Sexual Transmitted Diseases, Abortions, Single Mums, Divorces and the list goes on. The root of the problem is “People are not willing to wait till Marriage”

1. WAIT

“It is not easy but its worth it”

We can see that when God brought Eve to Adam, he was busy, working and looking after the garden where he was planted.
While you wait, let God work in your heart, study and learn as much as you can, prepare yourself for the future. Ask yourself as a man what will you offer to your future wife? don’t tell me “your six pack” that won’t feed your children and as a wife what will you offer to your future husband? Physical Beauty is not the same as character, that’s what you need to build a stable marriage. Also remember we choose to be faithful to our future spouse from the time we are waiting. IT IS WORTH IT!

2. THE SAME VISION FOR THE FUTURE

This is very important, before you consider marriage with someone you gotta make sure you are both on the same page with regards to your future, otherwise this will bring many problems. Consider things like your relationship with God, one could be so into God and want to be involved serving in church and the other not, believe me there is trouble ahead, also you might want to wait till marriage to initiate a sexual relationship and the other person might be in a hurry to speed things up, if he or she are not willing to wait, run for your life!

3. PRAY

When you first develop feelings for someone, pray specifically about that situation, asking God to bring clarity in your mind and heart so you don’t make decisions based on emotions but based on God’s guidance. When someone is infatuated, it is really difficult for that person to make the right decision.
Remember getting married is one of the most important decisions in our lives, we can’t risk to go wrong that’s why it is so important to get GOD involved from the beginning.

“A women’s heart should be so
lost in God, that a man must
seek Him in order to find her”

4. SEEK GUIDANCE

“Tell your parents and Spiritual Mentor”

Hear their thoughts, be ready to obey, whatever their instruction is, it might not be easy at the beginning but it’ll be worth it in the end. If for any reason they don’t like the person, but you know it’s God’s will for you, then rest on that, knowing that God will change your parents heart about the person. Just because he has already shown you. However knowing that a person is the right person for you, doesn’t give you the right to disobey your parents, God will make the situation right at his perfect timing.

I would like to end this blog by saying that if you have made mistakes, whether getting involved in wrong relationships, or engaging in sexual activities before marriage, God is a God of second opportunities and I know he wants to help you to get it right.
Remember “Waiting is not easy, but it is worth it”

Maribel Ravelo x